LAKERS win 16th championship!

I am as convinced that the fans won the championship for the Lakers as the determination to win on home turf by the Lakers. I am thoroughly convinced that no amount of animosity targeted by the Celtics fans, or Kobe as the athlete we most love to hate, could have changed the absorption of the Lakers in those pre-finals pictures.

Post game ,  when you look at the photos taken by the Lakers trophy in hand, it leads one to wonder how much that real visualization, holding your trophy, holding your victory in hand before it happens,  plays into a mindset that cannot lose in the last-minute of play. It is this mindset that creates champions, winners and  multimillionaires.

I believe that  the mindset that created the win, creates the win in the mindset of 1000′s of fans, and that winning mindset mirrored to the Lakers  inversely affected and created the win, when that is the ONLY conclusion that is demanded, no matter the cost in the final one minute of play.

It all goes back to that trophy at center court, hoisting the trophies, all done in advance ,  photographed,  played and replayed in the minds of the LA. LAKERS.  The final moments that won that game, against all odds, against all analysis were the photos of the players and those photos taken well in advance of the play offs,  kissing the trophy, created final moments that would never have allowed a loss in the minds of the players, and the coach.

Heard before the game begin, stated by Phil Jackson, ” Touch your hands together where your rings are.”

Verbal affirmations, visual affirmations, how does one lose a championship with that much victory talk ?

For a free copy of Chapter One ” Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,  ” please go to www.onemiracle.biz and ask for a free report. I will  upload the mindset thinking chapter that won this game for the Lakers.

Be blessed!

Angelica Wagner

Best selling author, “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” Series

Best Selling author, “Are You Ready for a Miracle ? ” Series

www.onemiracle.biz

People can tell if you love them, really love them. Maybe you think,  well its’ my husband, or my wife, or my child, they know I love them.

Maybe, or maybe not. The world of golf was very unforgiving of Tiger Woods’ infidelity today. Not directly to his face directly , so you would think the comment was being disrespectful. It  was  shown instead  by the lavishing of  praise on Phil Mickelson.  It was a very respectful ceremony of receiving the JACKET.

In a year that was also fraught with many trials, Mickelson remained quietly somber, until the final  stroke of the final hole after four days of play at Augusta. “Finally won one for the family, “he breathed.  Suddenly the heart of “why” he played that game so fearlessly became crystal clear.  The world of golf breathed with him in that final stroke,  and heard the silent tears of joy, loud and clear.

We live truthfully when we let the truth about others, including their needs, hopes and fears, guide the way we treat them.  Are you living truthfully in your life?

Mickelson did not give 50 news conferences apologizing about his past bad performances, missed shots, or let the media know what was going on until he won the coveted green jacket. There were no strained media conferences about his trials, the long embrace with his wife,  Amy,  spoke of character and commitment vand their victory kiss was all that was needed to be said.  The somber, yet reverent silence of the moment was heard around the world.

Do you think the world of golf got it?  You betcha!

Phil Mickelson got that coveted green jacket today not only because he played to the best of his ability,  a superior round of golf for the world to see, but because he held in highest esteem his most coveted prize: his family.

Sharp contrasts from Tiger Woods whose wife refused to show up to watch him play. Although rumor has it that she was offered $150M to stay for a few more years and a further $150 M to stay married to him until 2012, negotiated by the sister of Elin.  I am not sure that even this very young wife,  will fall for the money or for promises unmet.

When asked at the end of the game, Tiger commented,” Perhaps I have  come back too soon. ”  NO kidding, the demons were still seen swirling in his mind at several immature outbursts on the greens. At what point, did he forget about the real reason he played golf ? When did he forget to be a championship dad and husband?

There is no better means of promoting another person’s change of heart, than by allowing our own hearts to be changed.  As Tiger’s heart is changed by allowing his wife to influence him, and be considerate of her, he may respond to her, and the children’s  needs in a more considerate way, and thus be positively influenced by those who love him most.

When we allow ourselves to be influenced , we influence, and those who allow us to influence them become a greater influence to on us.  It becomes a circle of love.

Perhaps  the most coveted prize in golf was not the green jacket that fit perfectly for Mickelson,  or the prestige of playing with the world’s best golfers at Augusta.  Perhaps the most coveted prize today, was playing to “win for your family”, suffering the hardships privately, and being humble in the joy of the moment.

In my estimation that was the highest  stake at Augusta today……..and the fans around the world listened with their hearts, and applauded  THE  real champion.

IN order to ask. ” How can I help others with their dreams first ASK;

• What makes you cry?
• What makes you sing?
• What do you dream about?

The answers to Phil Mickelson’s victory were found in the pink ribbon on his cap, his warm embrace with his wife, and his silent tears of joy.  Not only did his heart sing,  as he got his dream, I think he influenced all of us by winning our hearts.

Angelica Wagner

Best Selling Author

“Are You Ready for a  Miracle? ” Series

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind ” series

www.onemiracle.biz

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Abraham Lincoln was famous for his communication with others.

He knew that he had to find common ground when speaking to people, and to do this, he had to discover what was really important to them. Therefore, one needs to speak to those who A.S.K. directly from your  heart.

Being genuine is a characteristic that one needs to adopt when communicating with others, whether one on one or before large audiences. No amount of humor, knowledge, techniques or wit can substitute for honesty or  a genuine desire to help someone else.

If you dictate to a person, command him to do something that he does not want to do, or create actions that shame him in front of others, he will retreat into himself. And , you will have no chance to reach him, at all, ever.

In order to connect with others , you have to do more than just f ind common ground and communicate with them. To build bridges to connect with people in a lasting way, share common experiences with them.  Listen, understand, affirm.

As you share your experiences, have a small group, talk together understanding each others difficulties without judgement. As you build bridges with people within your influence, especially at times of adversity, the connections that you make will last for a lifetime of friendships.

What does it take to achieve emotional intimacy?

The fundamental ingredient of intimacy is an awakening of each individual to the other and a willing effort to respond without any personal agenda in a way that seems right, considerate and helpful to the other person.

When the other person matters more than our own petty agenda, or defending our personal rights and ensuring our personal comforts. All that person really wants from you, is your HEART. That is pretty much it, not your money, not your influence,  not your time, just your heart in an effort to be human, to be understood and to be heard. This is not much of a request when you look at it.  How human are you?  Do you need CPR to restart your empty heart?

A profound sense of connection happens when we put aside our own petty agenda and look forward to sensing in the other person , their inner yearnings, fears , desires or need to be loved.

Charisma used to mean a “divinely conferred gift or power that gives on authority over another. ” Today charisma is a personal quality that gives a person influence, power or authority over others.  Charisma is intangible. we often hear about gurus, having charisma. Charisma however, can only be acquired through careful spiritual development. Charisma is a spiritual quality that comes from the heart, the mind, or the soul, but not from the body.

The guru is often spiritually empty. How many gurus do you know who have no real home, no family who loves them , no real rooted connection except to the audience who pays them ?  The film “Up in the Air”  was a great example of that.

So how do we acquire charisma;

1. First be humble about yourself. Why does it take superstars, or celebrities the gut check of losing their family  before they get humble? Charismatic people ,  those who attract others in all kinds of public gatherings, never try to attract attention to themselves.  They resist the temptation to prove how smart they are to others. A person of personal charisma is never a show off. They dress down to earth, not fancy.  They use simple words, not a dictionary to give their message.  They do not talk bout their great Rolodex of multi-millionaire friends.
2. They encourage people to talk about themselves, and rarely give any information about their own lives. People would rather talk about their own goals, plans and achievements than listen to you expound on why you are so great.  So ask questions, listen to answers and shut up. The other person  will think that you are an incredible conversationalist. Ask more questions to clarify your understanding of their need.
3. Keep asking questions and listening and your self-consciousness about asking will soon disappear.
4. Dress level. Never dress up, never dress down, dress level. In California, that means you wear jeans, even if you’d rather wear a name brand.
5. If you want to be charismatic, you do not attract attention to your appearance you want to attract attention to your spirit, you only want to have people ” see  your soul”.
6. Respond to their questions with the “eyes of your heart.” Not with a quick,  terse response just to check the ‘HUMAN”  off your seemingly endless to do list, or because you think you are too important or too busy to listen to their needs.
7. Act alive and speak with expression.
8. Most importantly, pay personal attention ONLY to the problems, questions and interests of others.
9. Accept what you are able to achieve, keep looking for ways to A.S.K., keep looking for ways that the universe wants to bless you.

Never, never, never speak about yourself.   You  STAY invisible.

1. YOU will change the lives of others.
2. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, ” One of the most beautiful  compensations of life is that no man can sincerely help another without truly helping himself.”

If you help others to reach their own potential, the rewards you will reap will always be  greater than your own.

Great teachers always want their students to exceed their own accomplishments. Who have you helped to become greater than you think you are , today?

Angelica Wagner

Best Selling author

“Are YOU Ready for a Miracle series”

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind ” series

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In every communication there is a sending signal and a receiving signal.  Sometimes when we communicate , we feel that we are understood, and heard. The other party, or group also feels that they have received the communication correctly. But how many times, have directions been misunderstood, or an email , devoid of emotion been taken the wrong way, or contracts misconstrued after a deal goes sideways.

In every sending signal, people may or may not agree with you. Your choice of language attracts or deflects others. Who is your audience? Is your message helpful, controversial or  do you just want to hear yourself talk.? I have just read a tweet comment and someone’s posting rules and the language floored me. How many four letter words that start with F……. can you write?

If this is the new language for $$$$, I guess I am not into it.

I still believe that people who read blogs, want to be informed, educated, have an opinion and be worthy of the time it takes to read the quote , or not. I do not have hours every day to read blog posts to hear someone limited vocabulary of the F word.

The language of money has respect for the person’s time and effort in reading the blog. Let’s start there, with respect, not someone’s laundry list of accomplishments for the day.

After over 25 years of practicing real estate at a very high level,  I am still stunned at my own errors of communication that continue to give me grief. You believe that  you have things handled and suddenly an incident happens and  your perception of the contract and the other person’s perception are drastically different.

It still goes back to having integrity or NOT.  When I make an agreement , either verbal or written, I am bound by that agreement. Not everyone does their business in a manner that has integrity. Selling is after all, a process of  asking questions, evaluating the answers and then proposing solutions to problems that arise.

As children, perhaps we have had incorrect answers or have been discouraged by asking questions  to things that puzzle us. Some parents are too impatient, too busy, or too selfish  to help their children understand that asking questions teaches us many things.

The result is that many of us grow up thinking and believing that it is wrong to ask. Some of us who write blog posts also continue to use the language of the street. Some of this rhetoric on line may be helpful, some of it is just EGO building popularity measurement.

So we do not ask for a better seat at dinner. We do not ask for a better commission split, or a better option to a problem on a contract. We do not ask for an upgrade on a plane. We do not ask for a mortgage/loan  at a bank. We do not ask what we have to do or how we have to change an article to be published or broadcast on the Internet, or get a radio interview.

Women especially forget or think they are too unworthy to ask.

How many times have your thoughts been used by someone whose crowing got them your raise, your commission, your promotion?

Only fools laugh at ignorance, or continually use foul language to make their point to the public . Wise and experienced  people help you to overcome any problems by asking about the questions that you may have. The Truth is that asking questions is always a sign of intelligence. Professors invariable give the highest grades to people who ask the most questions.

Top sales people are not TALKERS, or swearers, they are diagnosticians. They ask questions of the client in order to solve problems or give clients solutions that are relevant to the client’s deepest needs.

Many situations come up in life where we feel that we have been wronged. When that happens ask for corrective action , meet with the person to see how you can resolve the situation, and continue to ask questions about their reponses.

Ask why they hesitated? Ask why they laughed when you were not trying to be funny? Asked why they made their decision favorably or unfavorable towards you? Ask why they did/ did not sign the contract?

Most people who have some control over their lives will be glad to make things right if in fact they have wronged us.   When asking for a corrective action, always be polite and business like. When you demand your rights, threaten to see a lawyer, and file a law suit, you encourage the other person to resist helping you. YOU may lose the case, you may also make your point that you cannot be pushed around anymore.

People’s adult behavior reflects their child hood upbringing. As adults we can change our attitudes and reactions to people’s words. Disappointments can arise by hearing words that upset you.. As we tweet our messages to an unsuspecting audience, why not choose to be inspirational, rather than controversial.

When parents say NO all the time, we begin to think as grown ups, that the world wants to say “NO” to us as well, so we stop asking. That is not the case at all, asking the doors of the universe to open can happen just be asking.

We can continue to communicate for reasons of over coming obstacles, for clarity in communication, for creating cash flow, and for achieving other things that we really want in our lives. What do you REALLY, REALLY want? What can you do differently if you have been denied over and over again?

Are you asking the right person? Are you asking with a belief of receiving? Are you asking with a humble and contrite spirit?Are you bragging as you are asking?

People who sincerely want to improve their performance get rewarded for asking . It is a simple as that.

Every teacher, parent, preacher, instructor of any kind is at their heart,  a salesperson running a business. A baseball player is a huge hit if he can make one hit out of every 3 times at bat. YOU also will be a huge hit if only one third of all of your requests are granted.

Practice asking. Because the more often that you ask, the faster your fear of rejection will disappear. Do this thing that you fear most and the fear will disappear.

Lastly;

Make a list of the things that you want most in your life and ask for them until someone gives them to you.  Include in your list anything that  you feel would help you to enjoy your life more.

• Asking  your friends for advice helps them to feel more valuable,
• Asking people you know for help with government grants can get you $$$$
• Asking  for credits toward your education can get you a degree
• Asking for simple things such as an extra teabag  for your cup of tea, a larger piece of pie, or help with studying, all help your life to be better.

Ask, Ask, Ask.Ask for three things a day, until you get what you have asked for. Then,  track the methods you used to get what you wanted. Sooner or later, you will find a formula that works for you. If your track record is more than 3/10,  you are a winner all the time!

Do not allow your lack of asking to give you less than the life you imagined! Ask, ask , ask  for help. Do not try to defend a bad performance if there is even ONE.

Just do what you are told to create a fantastic result, and keep asking until you get it.  Humility works in ALMOST every situation. Ask Tiger Woods………….

who just might get his family back if he asks often enough.  Something worthy of asking for…

My interview on www . xzoneradio.com This FRIDAY night.

Coach Angelica Wagner

Best Selling Author.

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”Series

“Are You Ready for a Miracle?” Series

www.onemiracle.biz

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or xzbn.net tomorrow evening, a one hour radio exclusive with Rob Mc Connnell, producer of the x-zone radio.

All successful people are  ” askers.”  Asking gets you more of what you really want or really need. You have the right to ask for more Love,  more $$$$$ money, and much more respect.

The following are a few points that can get you what you want:

1. Choose a mentor , a guide or a coach to get you through a tough time.  In these financial times there are many people making millions of dollars. Why aren’t you? Do you know where to look for the money?  There is lots of money out there,  and many  ways to get to it, if you ask.  A successful person wants to give you the short cuts you need to get to where you want to go.
2. Asking someone for advice is the sincerest compliment that you can give them.  While they have the experience, if you have the money, you will soon gain a short cut that is safe so that you get the experience.
3. If you are in a JOB, and want to be promoted, ask for the promotion. Do not whine or beg,  just ask for the promotion.  Tell them why you deserve it. If you do not get it right away, ask again in a different way later on.
4. Always ask people in a respectful manner, when you need help, do not order anyone around. It is not respectful to do this,  and other people will not respect you if you treat them that way. Remember that if you are respectful to yourself, and treat yourself with kindness and grace, you will also treat others with respect, care and grace.

Learn to phrase your language so that you always get a “YES” response.

It is brilliant to ask for help. Asking questions is always a sign of intelligence, not stupidity. You do not know what that person is thinking unless you ask, or unless you are a psychic and can read brain waves.

Learning  to ask how you can improve your communication so that others understand you better, so that you gain more from conversation.

So that you are present in conversations , rather than impatient when someone asks you for  something.  If the person is constantly impatient when responding to your questions, ask yourself why you would need this energy in your life?  What are you getting out of ANY communication with this person?  If the answer is  nothing, then drop this facade that you consider to be a friendship. I had to do that twice in the last month.

As you learn to increase the frequency of asking, keep in mind the following points:

1. Expect some people to reject you. When I do cold calling, 5 people will tell me to get lost, 3 will tell me to call back in 6 months or less, and 2 will say, ” How did you know that I needed to talk to you? ” You are winning no matter what the answer, the result is always a yes, if you stay unattached to the outcome.
2. Ignore unsolicited advice. Is this annoying enough? Learn to say what others think about you is none of your business.
3. Ask: Do not beg. If someone can’t help you, move forward  with the next person.
4. Ask  several times, always in different ways.
5. If  you are a self-conscious person, show so much interest in the other person that you forget about yourself, totally.

As you read my blog you may not be in an emotional place to see the “forest for the trees, concerning your business ” . YOU are the right candidate for a mentor, coach,  guide or a successful person whose self-esteem is enhanced by helping you.

Last but not least, if someone turns you down a first time, call back and ask to help them in a different way, presenting your proposition in a new way, and ask for the order, AGAIN.  Chances are,  you will get the order the second time.

Stories of redemption will happen. Believe  it!

SO JUST Keep asking;

If at first you don’t succeed, “ask, ask and ask again. “

“To understand a person’s mind, examine what he has achieved in the past.  To understand his heart look at what he aspires to do with his life in the future. ”   Plato

In every life, there are days of sunshine and days of rain. Today in the state of  California we are living under a bucket of rain, pouring from the sky, drenching us in an avalanche of downpour, without ceasing.  So it is in “our state. ” A state of well-being, or a state of despair. As we travel through this state, we can belly crawl through desert ranges, fly over mountain tops, or find ourselves on our knees in the valley of doubt or fear. We cannot hide” our state”  from God.

It is in these valleys, our true inner life , the “dark night of the soul” where our one on one conversations with God,  reveal the secrets in discovering the miracles of our life. Understand this reality and your destiny is found. It cannot hide from your  excuses made for failures, or the lack of intention and determination of your dreams.

Desire causes motion on the level of the spheres. Literally bringing people, events, and crisis into our lives , often in commotion,  to create change. When man opens his heart, even for a moment, the insight and intuition he receives comes from God. Listening to this intuitive creation force, creates the miracles we need, in an instant.

Our circumstances are personally viewed as tragedies when each is intended as a stepping stone to greatness. Line up enough stepping-stones, tragedies, sorrow, and the greatness of  your destiny is revealed to YOU.   You cannot hide from it.

“I am with you always , and I will watch over you where ever you go. 
 I will not leave you, until I have done what I promised you I would do.” Genesis 28:10

1. What catastrophe has become clear in your life? 
2. Could you have died from it? If not, why not?
3. What did you learn about yourself in this tragedy?
4. Have you ever felt a presence or a power greater than yourself urging you to do some great work? Are you doing this?
5. If not,  why not? Who do you believe?
6. Pg. 16,17 “Are You Ready for a Miracle with Angels?  ”

“I am with you always , and I will watch over you where ever you go. 
 I will not leave you, until I have done what I promised you I would do.” Genesis 28:10

Every day we see crime in all it’s forms.  Just open a newspaper, turn on the tv, or listen to a radio broadcast for the latest in fraud. With California’s  unemployment now at 20%, fraud in our state and in every day people and work can become a daily survival mechanism . The media offers comment on type one blatant crime. I ask you to consider  as an alternative, “Is it a crime to break the laws of the Spirit? ”

Alexander Solzhenitsyn said” When we neither punish or reproach evil doers, we are ripping the foundations of justice from beneath the new generation.” So what will the next generation say about us?  What  will our grand children say about OMA or  OPA?(grandma or grandpa in German). What crimes of the Spirit have  we deliberately closed our eyes to? What does it mean to break the law of the Spirit in our every day conversations or our ethics in dealing with others?

When someone deliberately trips you up, makes you look foolish, takes credit for what you wrote, created or contributed, the human inclination is to try get revenge. I ask you to consider Conan O Briens’ characters , his brand,  his creations now the property of NBC,  now under his contract.

One spends a lifetime creating a brand, a character, a series of books or topics, and along comes an entity, corporation, “good buddy” who wants to know what you are working on, the ” horses are out of the barn ” in a casual conversation, as you watch your work becoming someone else’s million/billion dollar idea.

Can this R& D,  be called research and development, or would our kids or grand kids call a “spade a shovel”, and say it is truly “rip off and duplicate” ? A rape of intellectual property becomes a crime of the Spirit, creating in the recipient uncommon pain.  It is not a casual matter. Yet, no court in the land will give  ANY financial compensation for this type of crime. Actually copyright is limited to 20% of your words being copied. The law actually counts on it. The job of the law enforcement types is to deal with crimes of the land, with man- created, man-written laws, not God written laws. When God tells you to write and your work ends up in some famous guy’s book, it’s time to go ask yourself and GOD some very real questions.

When this continued to happen to me, as I shared my work with my ” best friends’  in the book/ publishing business,   I knew I either had to  shut up about what I was writing about,or continue to work,and the community would soon judge whose work it truly was. I began to believe that the original coward who wanted to take credit for my creativity would soon be found out. It could take years, and it did.

The point is, ” Don’t waste your time, intelligence, or emotional energy trying to get revenge, with those who tell lies about you, steal your ideas, take credit for your years of work . ” Sooner or later, the people who have broken the laws of the Spirit are themselves broken by the laws of God.  All is exposed. The Emperor is found naked under his fabulous, famous coat.  

“Uphold the Spirit”  in the persons with whom you communicate, by listening closely to what they have to say.

When you do this, you will win friends and influence many. Make jokes a regular part of your day to uphold someone’s broken Spirit. Forgiveness is a blessing  to your own Spirit.  Serving your enemy guards against further crimes of the Spirit, and saying “Yes” to your creator . It also tells the world who you REALLY believe, man or GOD.

Deal with people who want to put you down in some positive ways. 

1. Accept criticism as proof that you are growing in your field.
2. Never fight back at criticism or try to defend your place. Any argument leaves more room for your critics to find fault in you. Allow silence as your Spiritual sword.
3. Feel sorry for those who have no other joy in their life, than to find fault with you.
4. Thank them for their gift. Even a cup of hemlock is a gift from your enemy.
5. Never, never , never try to get revenge. It reduces you to your tormentor’s level, and no man-made court centered, man written law will give resolution that can compensate you for your time and energy spent .
6. Decide whose laws you serve.  Man’s  or God’s.  Whose favour is your heart seeking? 

 

Have a blessed day.

Coach Angie

Best  Selling Author

“Are You Ready for a Miracle? “Series

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” Series.

www.onemiracle.biz

  In creating miracles, we  found a great phrase coined by my mentor, Robert G. Allen.  He called it “Blessonomics”.

Based on the JFK principle of asking , “What can I do for others? “or ” How can I help someone else” , I ask you today to ask yourself , “How you can you bless someone else’s life with your gift. ”  

Here are five ways to give a gift that expands your world. I hope it makes your life and those you love more rewarding. 1)The most powerful gifts are intangible, they cost nothing , mean everything.

My daughter, Andrea sent me a towel for Christmas. It was one of the loveliest gifts I have ever received. What is so extravagant about a towel, you ask? She sent a description of the many uses of towels. To wipe the tears of a child, to clean a  counter after baking brownies, to dry dishes after a family meal. Jesus used a towel to wipe the feet of his disciples after he washed them. This simple towel brought tears to my eyes.   Think of  what you can give that costs nothing and means everything.   

2)When you give a tangible gift, tailor it to the receiver’s interest.

If you see someone, you can soon fund out what their interests are. Each gift should say, “I know you. Your interests, needs, wants, desires. ” Everybody collects something. I write books on angels. Over the years people have given me all sorts of angels. I have kept every one.  Women love to receive flowers, sometimes the flowers from a friend’s garden or lemons from a neighbor’s tree mean more than anything.  I know am loved for the baking I pass on from my kitchen. I know I am loved for the words that inspire others. I know I am loved for the bible study that inspires my women’s groups. What do you do, that gives your love to others?  

3) Put thought value, not money value into your gift.

In very few hours of spare time, I love to crochet, and knit. I have given a hand knit scarf to my friend Tim, who refers to my real estate as ” stick to the knitting. ” I have given a crocheted baby blanket to a mentor who just had a baby boy. It took 3 months to finish. It was the first time I had seen a grown man cry. He was not my son, that day, it felt like he was my son.

4)Give when it is least expected.

After a ten-year hiatus of not speaking to a very dear friend who had seriously offended me, I saw him at a conference. When he approached me , I said, ” I forgive you.” It was as though I had thrown him a left hook.He physically jumped back at least 3 feet, stunned. I gave the gift of forgiveness.  A truly powerful gift comes as a surprise to the receiver.

Learn to find gifts for those you love and give when they least expect it. Forgiveness is the most powerful gift you can give to heal a broken relationship. Give when you want to , not when you are expected to.

5)  Give more of you. Make the second effort.

Did Olympians ever win by a yard, by a mile, by an acre? No, it is always by an inch, by a hair, by a millisecond.Consider football. Vince Lombardi said, “How many games win by four yards? Mostly all of them.” Those who consistently, deliberately, consciously make the second effort to move just a little bit more , and give extraordinary performance every time. It means making certain you know what your customer needs ,and building  the presentation towards that, every time. It means knowing what your children need and giving it to them emotionally. It makes knowing what your spouse needs when you disagree the strongest and the loudest ,that keeps a marriage happy.

It is better to give, than to receive. This week, on Thursday, a restaurant in my community in Orange County is giving all its sales, not all its profits, to Saddleback relief for Haiti. The owners do not even go to my church, these are givers, who give in their own way, and create miracles to others they do not even know, who live a world away.

How can you create miracles in your world by giving?  “Blessonomics. “

Be blessed by what you give not what you receive. Thanks, Robert G Allen. 

Angelica Wagner

“Are You Ready for a Miracle? “series

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind’ series

Although there is much debate about how angels appear to us in our every day life as ordinary humans, there is more than a common consensus that they do exist. They may even show up when they are called upon, to intervene in a tragedy or disaster.Actually, it is reported that over 80% of the world population has either had an angel intervention knows someone who did, or believes in angels. That amounts to billions of people.

As I expanded this thinking to life and it’s challenging situations I began to understand how removing interference in our life’s obstacles heals the soul, and heals our lives. Rather than using life as a black hole for our inactivity, anger,  blame or guilt, we could use life as this amazing school house called “EARTH.” When we see this as our experience and do not resist the good things in our lives as they show up,  situations of desperation and despair soon go away and leave the room. It especially helps not to talk about bad things, but let the solutions unfold and expand into your NEW reality. It also helps to speak volumes about good things and good people.  What you focus on will expand, will get larger, will grow.

So do you want more trouble,  or do you really want more JOY??

Pick one.  See how that works for ‘ya. As you only learn this one secret to a happy life, you will broadcast into your life more of what you ask for. So does bitching and moaning do it for you? Would you like a little whine with that cheese?

As human beings, we change as a result of the tragedy and have reason to commit to something. Who would Chelsea King’s parents become without their deep personal tragedy? Who will Tiger Woods and John Edwards become in their public indiscretions? What tragedy, near death, sorrow, has totally morphed into a NEW reason for living and new found purpose in your life? Does this new found life now bring you JOY?

As we see the past as a tilling field of learning and growing, plowing under the bad, breathing fresh life  and lifting up the good, more Good will surface. As we breath life into the pain that is still “the present” , we explore a new depth of love for the self, and grow the potential for living in an intimate experience ” with Divine will  ” as the only guidepost for our lives.

There is no such thing as an undercover healer or an undercover  angel. Both healing and angel interventions expose their goodness, through all the sorrow. As we inhale, or breathe in the belief in the manifestation of the miracle, we exhale the reality of the miracle by sharing it with others. What miracle was caused by some great tragedy in your life?

The more we take time to talk about miracles and be grateful for our tragedies, the more miracles will begin to show up on a regular basis. This changes the path of destiny in our lives, and explodes healthy new patterns of living and being.

Think of the Psalmist, David. In Psalm  35; 1-8 he wrote:

“Plead my cause , o Lord, with those who strive with me

Fight against those who fight against me,

Take hold of the shield and buckler, And stand up for my help .

Also draw out the spear

And stop those who pursue me.

Say to my soul; “ I am your salvation.”

Let those be  put to shame and brought to dishonor

Who seek after my life

Let those be turned back and brought to confusion

Who plot to hurt me.

Let them be like chaff before the wind.

And let the Angel of the Lord chase them.

Let their way be dark and slippery,

And let the Angel of the Lord pursue them.

For without cause they have hidden their net for me in a pit,
Which they have dug without cause for my life.”

If the great King David called on the Angel of the Lord to pursue and deal with his enemies and misfortunes,

who are we to disagree with him?

What happens when only God can see you?

To me it means,who  am I in the dark when no one else is watching. What does my character say about me?

• Do I ride my bike through a red light, just because no one is watching me  in any of the opposing sides?
• Do I drop the wrapper from the chewing gum, or the peel from an orange because I am too lazy to walk 6 steps to the trash bin?
• Do I quietly pick up after others who have been disrespectful in places that I find sacred?
• Do I take more than 4 minutes in the shower after a grueling yoga class  when there are other people  who are waiting in line?
• Does GOD see me when I want to raid the fridge late at night and I am supposed to on a diet?
• When I promised that I would do something and do not show up?
• When I am talking to a friend  about another friend? When I am engaged in gossip ? When I am responsible for hurting someone and do not apologize?

What do I do in times of stress? Where do I reach in times of desperation? What is my posture in times of need? Whose council do I seek?

What is the wisdom of the ancients that I read? Are the places that I spend money or the places that I spend time, congruent with my deep and core values? How do I use my mind to achieve my goals that have previously seemed illusive?

In recent weeks, I am striving for  a truly conscious level of body, mind, spirit brought on by the intense transformation of working my body @ yoga classes,  where I am consciously striving for deeper and deeper personal,  internal and external Integrity. The kind of integrity that shines through as truly honest, truly real, and truly revealing.The kind of integrity that is exposed in how I spend my time, and with whom. It also checks in to how I spend my money, and in where. What or who do I love and revere, and whom do I run from?

I was blessed last week with an incident, an amazing  Divine intervention that not only shook me to my core, but revealed a lot about the person I am now , and who I was in the past when I did not know ” who  I was.”

I called a friend today,  to say “HI ” and to ask her a question.

Somehow, inadvertently the line opened and was left open after the cell call rang through. Although she did not pick up the phone, I knew that she had another person in the car with her.

As I listened for a few moments, waiting for her to answer me and pick up the call.  I suddenly realized that all the humor in her conversation with the other person was directed towards me.  It was a laundry list of “ridiculous things”  I had said, done or was doing. I was the brunt of the jokes, of the humor and of the sarcasm. ” Can you believe she did this?” and on,and on,and on. Word for word private conversations I had shared with her, personal goals I wanted to achieve, details of business transactions. It was as if, this “friend”  couldn’t find one thing right about who I was, or what I was here to do.

This was also the same FRIEND that I had just spent a half day helping to move all her stuff, up and down two flights of stairs when the “friend” she was gossiping with, did not even show up, or lift a finger. I listened for a good fifteen minutes,  sort of a verbal voyeur, in a place I knew I was not welcomed. Betrayed to the core, shocked and dismayed, as I clicked over to answer another caller on another line, I realized a few things about myself;

• In years past, I would have continued this sham I believed to be a “friendship” because she was a Christian, and been even more deeply hurt about this relationship along the way, at a later date.
• In years past, I would have swept the negative comments under the rug, and half heartedly laughed along in an attempt to “fit in”  to the group.
• In years past, did I change  MY course,  just  to have to group acceptance?
• HOW have I have learned to say “NO?” to others so I can say “YES ” to myself and to GOD’s calling in my life?

• Say NO to believing this type of betrayal would not occur again with this person.
• Say NO to trying to change anyone except myself to just accept people as they are.
• Say NO to having friends who do not have nice things to say about me when I am mot present.
• Say NO to having friends who gossip.

In Sanskrit,  there is a term called AHIMSA,”‘Are my thoughts, words and actions fostering the growth and well being of all beings?” Am I fostering the growth and well being of myself?  Are habits like raiding the fridge at mid nght,  stuffing my body with food I do not need,  or having “friends”  who say mean things behind my back helpful or harmful to me?

Am I watching my actions when no one else sees them? Do I gossip?  What happens in my life when only GOD is watching ME?  Am I aware of what is harmful and what is healing my  life  so I can make better choices for the long term good? Do I have a  wholesome balance between emotion and feeling,  a healthy expressions of energy and effort which shows in my life?  I then have more to give and to share with others when I know who I am.

• Why do I believe in the stars but NOT in me……. FAITH in GOD counts.
• Take a one way ticket back to the Divine.
• Some things need to be talked through, some things need to be thought through, and some things need to be felt through.

What are you accepting or denying about your own growth and well being  that your speech, thoughts and deeds contradict? Where are you not in alignment with your higher purpose, with your body, with your words? Can you forgive someone who has hurt you?  How can you make your life be in MORE integrity that it is now?

How can your life actions  be more in integrity  with kindness, acceptance of others and non- judgement of  MYSELF ?  HOW can you feel more  and express those feelings clearly,  instead of denying your feelings or confronting how others have hurt you? Do I choose to stuff  my  face with food @ midnight fridge raids (or other addictions ) because I feel guilty about what I have done, or because I feel hurt and need to hide under the covering of food?

As a now famous trainer once said,  ”Why do I really want to be fat? “

Wow, I need a 12 step programme to get over the Olympics.

Weren’t these 16 days just amazing?

My daily blog, one of the deepest loves of my life, tossed aside for the addiction of television.  This is an addiction that I absolutely abhor. I stopped ALL television in my life from September until the week of the Olympics. It was just incredible how much I got done in those hours from 6-10pm every night. It was fodder for my writing,  for my speaking, for dreaming.

In using those months set aside from mediocrity, a new self was born. A self who took the inspiration from those GAMES, to invent games to soothe the soul to heal and inspire others.

In my book ” Are YOU Ready for a Miracle  with Angels? ” I discuss the need for miracles in our society.

Page 112-114 discuss the need for miracles to heal the soul and feed the body instead of the addictions of food, alcohol, drugs, television, limitations, society’s pressures.

” Miracles express God’s intention for wholeness in our society. It is the intervention of God in our lives that restores, heals and liberates humans to  a place of dignity and power. The message of the miracle is that  because we are children of God. We are powerful beyond all measure, we are daughters or sons of a great and glorious KING. How many times did the Olympians come back from perceived failure to amazing victory and glory in the visions of the work that they were sent to do. They fulfilled their purpose, what  is yours?

As we begin to acknowledge  being stuck  in our lives, remaining in  a state that is constricting or limiting in some way. When we are clear about who we are , energy flows freely around us and through us. There is no strain or fatigue.

When we resist the energy of the universe, or of our soul,  pointing the way to greatness in our lives,we experience a shaky or out of control feeling. This feeling sometimes scares us. How many times were the Olympians at the edge of their skis, at the edge of their skates with muscles shaking, at the edge of near failure,at the very edge of God’s glory or disaster?

Truth is expressed in accepting these “shaky,  out of control feelings” as our new edge. What happens beyond this? The universe, the outside world,  finally gets it and your body, your soul, your purpose opens up to you.

In practicing yoga of late, I have also found that space, where I believed was my edge. This end, my end, my breaking point, was so mediocre, so small, when my body opened up to a glorious blossoming point, a much greater level of breath and life, than I could ever imagine.

A famous drug commercial says, ” When it comes to your heart, you cannot take things lightly.” Advising you further to take their drug to stabilize your heart. Everyone who knows me, knows my aversion to drugs of any sort going into the body. As I age and cope with hereditary factors that affect my health, I have relaxed this stance to a small degree.

I still stay grounded in the firm knowledge that the heart, not the lungs, give us our breath of life. So go ahead, cover up your fear with drugs, food , alcohol, addictions of all sorts, and fear.

Imagine if the Olympians took a drug to suppress the fire in their hearts to ski, or to bob sled or to skate? Imagine if the greatest scientists in the world took a drug to suppress the need to find a cure for a disease? Imagine if  we took a drug to suppress the pain of our life purpose, no matter how hard that is?

When I was the opening speaker for Marianne Williamson at the University Of Toronto in 2002, there were 1000 people in the audience. Although I had spoken for many years before this time to groups of 100, 200, I had never faced an audience of 1000 people.

It was my job to pick Marianne up at her hotel, and get us to our speaking engagement on time. The booking agent of the event thought it would be a great thrill for me.  It was. Here is Marianne Williamson, worth about 100 million, and me showing up in my little car, 10-year-old Saturn.I had no money to hire a limo to get us there.

I was so excited and so scared, I got lost on the way to the university. I took the traffic circle three times. She finally said, laughing  ”It will be a miracle if we get there at all, we need angels to guide us. “

I finally got us there, 5 minutes before the “opening speaker”, that would be me, was to speak. I peeked between the curtains, saw this  HUGE audience and immediately  ran to the bathroom to puke. You can not imagine my fear. We did start a few minutes late. The words that came out of my mouth were not the words I had written on the page and rehearsed, but they were God breathed.

It was Marianne Williamson who wrote the words for Nelson Mandela’s inauguration speech of 1994.

” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate

Outr deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that scares us.

We ask ourselves who am I to be gorgeous, brilliant, talented or famous?

Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of GOD.

Your playing small does not serve the world,

There is nothing enlightened about  shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone. As we let out light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to let their light shine also.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

What if the Olympians decided that they could not overcome the fear of competition to live their glorious God breathed moments on the podium? What if producers, tv broadcasters chose to play small.

Rumor has it,  today,  that one of my heroes, Anderson Cooper, who I dearly missed for 6 months, has been  invited to take over Katie Couric ‘s evening news position on another station. Fact or fiction, is not the point.

What if Anderson Cooper, or Larry King, or Rick Warren folded under the criticism of their work  or their stories, or their purpose? What if they listened to the outside words of darkness in the world, instead of the internal light and bright voice of God breathing within them?

What if they were not shaky, did not take on the tough interviews, the impossible people, the impossible stories in impossible places to bring to the audience of millions @ CNN ??

• What fear do you need to overcome to live your life dream?
• What mediocrity do you need to abandon so that you can focus on your greatness?
• What addiction do you need to give up so that God can breathe through you?
• Is it the need for acceptance, or do you have the disease to please?

What can you give up or say “NO” to,  so that  great God of the universe can say “Yes, ” to you. What addiction can you release so that  GOD can uncover your soul?

Angelica Wagner

Best selling Author

” Are YOU Ready for a Miracle with Angels?”series

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind’ series

“I don’ quit. “ words spoken by President Obama at the  State of the Union address tonight. It has not been an easy year for this man. NO man, woman,  or alien could do more for an economy that is failing, banks scamming, stocks and realestate dropping into the toilet, car manufactureres going bankrupt. State of the Union was the wrong call. I think the sate of the union should just be called ”state of mess.”  

Somebody actually applied, campaigned for several years in a whole country, against all odds,  to get the job. The job pays like crap, but has some perks. A this point I am sure the the President is asking hmself if those perks are worth the sacrifice.  I am sure all Presidents ask themselves, if this JOB is really worth the sacrifice?

I am sure every mother/father has asked the question @one time or another , “Is this job really worth the sacrifice? “

NO matter how much a President works, how creative he is in finance, how much he fights for reform in the country, there is a always someone to  denigrate or object. The President is only mortal flesh and blood.

Like other leaders, he is unappreciated. The job is not fun, the job is controversial. He knew the consequences of getting the job in advance, the job came along with war, the job came with a financial meltdown. Still, he wanted the job.

Moses heard the voice of God in a  burning bush. He was asked to lead the Israelites out ot Egypt. It was a journey that should have taken two weeks. It took 40 years. When you are confronted with a journey that is just taking too long,  ask yourself:

1. Why am I going there? Why is this so important? What is my pay off?
2. Who am I following?  Do I need a new coach?
3. Whoses advice can I seek to help me get there?
4. Am I looking for the perks in the job? Are the perks enough?
5. Is there another route, I have not discovered, that I can take to get there?
6. Is there someone I need to pursuade to help me get there with supplies, food, inspiration?
7. Once in the promised land, who can I bless?  

What have you done that is unappreciated, unpaid, or unacceptable? Why did you also say, ” I dont’ quit.”

The answer to that questions is the answer you need to get you to your promised land.

Best Selling Author

“Are YOU ready for a Miracle?

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind.”

 The conversation simply began with the question,”‘ Do you remember my name? “ 

This comment  followed with heavy breathing, the comment “‘Oh my God. “ I was abruptly cut off , the phone dropped and the man told me that he would call me back very shortly. It was no big deal to me. I simply believed that he must have been in  traffic, near an accident, or had some personal issue that forced him to abruptly end the conversation.

Time passed. He called back. ” All I remember is waking up in a 8000 sq foot home somewhere in Newport Beach, with a woman whose name I did not know. You have a 949 number. I was hoping you were not telling me about a child I did not know about. I could not remember  her name. My daughter asked me, “Daddy, do I have another sister somewhere? I already have 4 daughters. You’re not that woman, are you? “

I laughed hysterically. This was not the purpose of my call. I knew I was not the woman, because I choose a celibate life style , since attending Saddleback Church, over the last 5 years. So there had been no harm, no foul, and no waking up in some stranger’s bed with the obvious consequences. Of this I was very sure. I found the situation so funny, I near peed my pants laughing.

I was asking the question, because I was the woman to  whom he had written an offer of $13,000,000 on a project that I was working on. Over the last 6 months,  I have found myself constantly apologising for being a woman who was writing an offer or “putting her name ”on a multi-million dollar deal. It is most unusual, given the world of bulk foreclosures, to have a woman’s name on the deed, or even Letter of Intent on a multi-million dollar project.

I always remember to ask, ” Do you remember my name? “  They, the men I address in my business, seldom do. Should I give myself  the pseudonym of ” John”  or maybe ” Michael ” ? My voice will give it away.

I smiled the rest of the day, thinking about his very real panic. Imagine the consequences. Even funnier was the fact that this week’s bible study lesson for my Women’s group was about Rahab, the prostitute that made it into the Hall Of Faith along with such notables, as Mary, the mother of Jesus.   Hysterical, only God has such a great sense of humour.

Rahab was actively working as a prostitute when God decided to use her. While yet a sinner, God chose Rahab to deliver the Christians while the walls of Jericho were falling down around her.Rahab lived at the wall, ran a brothel, and because of her faith, she hid the Israelites. Imagine hiding men of God in a local brothel?  It speaks only of God’s humour and Rahab’s faith.

God reminds us that he uses even the unacceptable to show their faith to the one true God. Only Faith could make Rahab and her family gather in the brothel, hear the walls of Jericho collapse,  people scream, and rely on a simple scarlet chord tied in her window to mark her family for deliverance.  

God gave painted women dignity and honour. Then he painted her picture among the greatest heroes in the Hall of Faith. This is style. Rahab eventually married an Israelite and embraced the holy nation of Israel. She had the faith for deliverance. She had the faith for redemption . Then, accepted, she was made a bride.

I prompt myself to ask , ” How unacceptable are you?  How is God using you?  How has God called you? Do you believe that  He remembers your name?  “

Joshua 2. for the story.

We can learn that one of the ways that we can change our hearts , change our way of being,  is by opening ourselves to others and allowing the truth of their feelings and needs to influence us. It means allowing ourselves teaching by them. It means allowing ourselves vulnerability to another human’s heart. This is why Rahab’s decisions so influenced others, she saw their need and helped them. She heard the calling of her God.

“Allowing ourselves to be influenced is not only the way that we change, it is equally the way that we can influence and help to change others. We become far less defensive, less accusing, and far more caring.

Then by having changed we give them a different person to respond to than before. We do this with no effort to manipulate them into being what we want them to be. When they no longer have to worry about defending themselves, they have “the space” to decide how they will respond to our new response to them. We influence them, by letting them influence us.  There is no better means of promoting another person’s change of heart than allowing  our own heart to be changed.

How does your name influence others? Do people know your name to be an influence, or is your  name unacceptable? When people remember your name, how do they respond?  How is God using you, using your condition,  to honour His Name?  What challenge has God called you to do that you feel you are unworthy of accepting? 

I write a daily blog because God says, “ I am an author.” 

What do you need to believe that God has said about  you and “YOUR NAME” ? 

Best Selling Author

“Are You Ready for a Miracle?” series

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” series